“I have a therapy session today, but I feel fine.” It’s the excuse we’ve all told ourselves, wondering if we should really even go today. You might be tempted to ditch therapy when you’re having a good day, but that could be a big mistake. Here’s why you should go anyway.
Good Days Or Just Therapy Days?
Yesterday, you woke up feeling down. The day before, you also woke up feeling down. And the day before that. But this morning? The sun was shining, and you thought about all the things you’d rather do than sit in a stuffy office discussing your feelings.
I experience this on most therapy days. Maybe you do, too.
When I first started attending therapy sessions, I misinterpreted these feelings as saying to me, “Hey, I’m fine! I don’t even need to go today.” So, I would call and tell my therapist just that (as you are entitled to do so) or make up an excuse for why I couldn’t come in.
But now, I understand that “good day” feeling better. Just knowing that I’ll have the opportunity to talk about myself in a nonjudgemental environment tends to lift my spirits and give me good day vibes. Therapy tends to clear my head and leave me with a brighter perspective.
Skipping therapy because I have good feelings about therapy later is obviously counterproductive.
Cost of Ditching Therapy
Back in my ditch days, like clockwork, I would find the impending doom settling in late afternoon. With 4 pm quickly approaching, my impulse to cancel would grow by the minute.
With a last minute cancel, I couldn’t get another session with my therapist until the next scheduled session two weeks out.
“Oh well, looks like I was on my own on this round.” Not a good feeling, but I thought I could handle it. This inconsistent cycle eventually would lead me to pull out of my first (and second) therapy session altogether.
The program won’t work, if you aren’t there. Pretty basic stuff.
Go. Even If You Don’t Feel Like It?
It may feel like torture, parking and walking up those steps. The door may weigh 1000 tons. It may be the last thing you want to do today.
But it’s the one thing you need to do today.
Those 45 minutes will fly by, I promise. Then you’ll be on your way! You’ll be infinitely glad you went. And you’ll probably realize it was less painful than your mind was telling you it would be.
I never regretted a therapy session I went to. I always regretted the ones I didn’t. (Even if I didn’t fully realize it at the time.)
Here’s What I Recommend
Because therapy sessions can be so difficult for me to stick with, I like to focus on making that day as painless as possible. Even though I better understand why I “feel fine” on therapy days, that reflex to cancel still challenges me sometimes.
On therapy days, the simple things matter.
Start the day with your favorite breakfast — something delicious, yet nutritious. Put on some of your favorite jams on the way to your appointment. Roll your windows down, and embrace the good mood you are in.
You deserve it.
On days like this, I usually have a difficult time remembering some of the issues I wanted to discuss during the week leading up to the session. To get in front of this, I like to jot down questions or concerns on a note-pad, tuck it away, and save it for the appointment.
I also like to plan a fun activity following my session. It doesn’t have to be fancy or expensive. Maybe a Target run, a day trip to the beach, the mall and Panera, or perhaps a downright Netflix binge?
Whatever you enjoy, the rest of day is yours. Cook your favorite meal, spend time with family or friends, or go to the gym or yoga session to unwind.
Therapy Day Is About You
I used to absolutely dread therapy session days. Thankfully, I now have an alternative view. These days are about me.
A professional sets time aside to specifically address thoughts and concerns expressed by me. They aim to help me. I owe myself the same courtesy, right?
If someone else is willing to put me into focus, there is no reason I shouldn’t do the same for myself.
Give yourself a little extra love on those days. If you have a partner or significant other, ask them to do the same. It can really help to make them aware of your perspective on therapy days, and why making it an easy, fun day is so important to you.
Plan a nice meal, relax, and thank God the day is over. At least for another 2 weeks!
If you’ve never attended a therapy session, or just want to know what you may expect, check out this post on what to expect during your first therapy session. Been going to therapy and it’s not working for you? Maybe it’s time to fire your therapist. Check out this post to figure out if it’s time to change therapists (and how to do it).
Still sending you sunshine,