Setting Healthy Boundaries
Mental Health,  Personal

Setting Healthy Boundaries | Day 15 of 90

It seems like a dirty word… boundaries. Maybe that’s because setting healthy boundaries can be hard. Or maybe our culture is so intense that it feels like boundaries hardly exist anymore.

I suppose those two really go hand in hand.

Healthy Boundaries in Corporate America

The corporate culture in America is toxic, in my opinion. It’s all work and no balance. For example, I’m expected to check in with work every day — 7 days a week — no matter what in order to make sure things are running smoothly.

The people I work with put in 60+ hour weeks, sleep 4 hours a night, answer 3 am phone calls, and eat/sleep/breathe work.

Like what?

This is a recent development in my employment as I have been made a lead engineer on a big project.

While that sounds like a good thing for me and my career, the truth is? I don’t want it.

My physical and mental health is worth more than any job.

Setting Healthy Boundaries

Boundaries are super important to me, and up until now, I feel like I’ve done a good job at setting healthy boundaries with work. I don’t check my email from home. I certainly don’t answer the phone calls that come in the middle of the night. And I leave work at work.

Well, until this week when I got the big news.

There are a few things I can do to minimize how much work I have to do from home. I can write programs to check the data for me and then email me if there’s a problem. But that still involved checking my email from home.

But How?

This has given me a lot to think about this week as far as what setting healthy boundaries looks like to me and how to enforce them. They say that if you set healthy boundaries, people will respect them. My in my experience, that’s not always true. And I haven’t always been in a position to push back against what I feel like is a healthy boundary for me.

I don’t have all the answers.

But the conclusion that I’ve come to is that I either need to figure out how to be okay with the lot I’ve got right now, or I need to change it.

Changing it could look like getting a new job at a company that has values that align with mine. Or it could look like putting my nose to the grind in my business and getting profitable enough to quit the corporate world altogether.

Those options could look different for you.

I haven’t figured out what my next step is. Working evenings, weekends, holidays, and paid vacation days is definitely not what I’m about. But what I do know is that I need healthy boundaries, and I don’t have them right now.

The saga continues. You’ll be the first to know when I can kiss my day job goodbye and go full time with Egyptian Organics!

In the meantime, here’s today’s check in!

Check In

Health

Okay, so I forgot my evening weigh in. I’m over at my parents-in-law tonight with Tim while he dog sits, so it is what it is.

I splurged and got into some organic coconut milk ice cream tonight. It’s chocolate, so I’m not sure what’s going to happen to my sleep.

The period cravings are powerful.

I always crave chocolate so hard right before and during my period. That’s fine for during the day, but at 8 PM? Sleep sabotage for sure.

I’m going to try using some essential oils for cravings the rest of the week to help keep me out of the caffeine before bed.

8/23 PM8/29 AM9/6 AM
Weight (lb)119.4117.4119.4
BMI21.220.821.2
Body Fat %15.9%15.6%15.9%
Fat-Free Body Weight (lb)100.499.0100.4
Subcutaneous Fat %14.8%14.4%14.8%
Visceral Fat333
Body Water %57.7%57.9%57.7%
Skeletal Muscle %49.0%49.2%49.0%
Muscle Mass (lb)94.493.294.4
Bone Mass (lb)6.06.06
Protein %20.5%20.6%20.5%
Basal Metabolic Rate (kcal)135313401353
Cycle Day182432
Day1715
Sleep

Last night is an interesting data point. I was in bed with a book and red light by 8:30. I gave myself the entire evening before bed to chill out and relax.

But somehow I still got no REM sleep. Like literally 2 minutes.

There has to be more to it than just blocking blue light and having a calm evening. Once I get this puzzle figured out, I’m gonna feel like a new woman!

9/6
Total Sleep Time6 hr 28 min
Time In Bed6 hr 49 min
REM Sleep0 hr 2 min
Deep Sleep2 hr 27 min
Bed Time10:09 PM
Wake Time4:58 AM
Latency4 min
Lowest Resting Heart Rate46 bpm

Talk tomorrow!

Much love,

Kate